Most U.S. adults sleep with a partner. But do we actually sleep better together—or alone?
If you’re among the two-thirds of Americans who share a bed with someone, this post is for you! According to the Better Sleep Council’s “Sleep and Partners Research 2023” survey, the dynamics of sleeping with a partner are more nuanced than you might think:
- 45% say they sleep better alone, while 45% sleep better with their partner!
- Cuddling increases feelings of happiness and promotes closeness.
- Men are more likely to say they enjoy cuddling and that they sleep better together.
No matter what your preferences are, having a mattress that meets both of your needs is essential for your overall health and relationship. An old, uncomfortable mattress can lead to poor sleep and serious health issues such as:
- Chronic Health Issues: Obesity, diabetes, and high blood pressure.
- Weakened Immune Systems: Increased susceptibility to illnesses.
- Hormone Imbalances: Mood swings, cognitive impairments, and slower physical reactions.
Ready to upgrade your sleep? Here’s a guide to choosing the perfect mattress for two.
Understanding Each Other’s Sleep Needs
Shared comfort happens when two people find peace sleeping together. Personal comfort is finding your own perfect sleep environment. The key? Communication! Discuss your needs and find a happy medium.
Choosing the Right Type of Mattress
Today’s market offers mattresses with a variety of materials and technologies. Consider these popular options:
- Memory Foam: Great for joint pain and motion isolation.
- Innerspring: Traditional support with bounciness and airflow.
- Pillow-top: Adds plush comfort to innerspring mattresses.
- Latex: Best for restless sleepers and those who get hot at night.
- Hybrid: Combines the best features of innerspring and foam mattresses.
- Gel: Cool temperature regulation and excellent motion isolation.
Motion Isolation: Keep the Peace at Night
Nothing ruins sleep faster than feeling your partner’s every toss and turn. Test for motion isolation at the store by:
- Placing a water bottle on one side while sitting on the other—if it falls, isolation is poor.
- Having one person move around while the other lies still—less movement felt means better isolation.
Pro Tip: Memory foam, latex, and gel mattresses usually offer the best motion isolation!
FAST STAT: 8 in 10 adults agree that cuddling reduces stress and anxiety.
Navigating the Temperature Battle
Experts recommend a bedroom temperature around 65°F for optimal sleep. But what if you and your partner have different comfort levels?
Compromise with adjustable bedding, temperature-regulating sheets, or invest in a cooling mattress like gel or latex models.
FAST STAT: 40% of U.S. adults share a bed with their partner six or more times a week.
Sleep Positions Matter
Everyone has a preferred sleep position—side, back, stomach, or even starfish. Document each other’s habits. This insight helps when selecting the mattress firmness and style.
FAST STAT: 47% of adults who live with a partner sleep on a king-sized bed.
Picking the Right Mattress Size
Size matters—especially for couples! Here’s a quick guide:
- Queen (60″ x 80″): Cozy but sufficient for two.
- King (76″ x 80″): Extra room for personal space lovers.
- Split King (76″ x 80″): Customize each side independently.
- California King (72″ x 84″): More legroom for taller sleepers.
FAST STAT: Older adults (52%) are more likely than younger adults (39%) to prefer sleeping with a partner.
Tips for Mattress Shopping
Use the S.L.E.E.P. Test while shopping with your partner:
- Select a few mattresses.
- Lie in your regular sleeping positions.
- Evaluate comfort and support.
- Educate yourself on the mattress’s features.
- Partners should shop and test together!
Take your time—spend at least 10-15 minutes lying on potential mattresses. Bring your favorite pillow and don’t be